Last night was drinks with a group of girls and I chatted with one, brand new to the city. We couldn’t help but compare the people in LA to other places. I remembered how it felt to be new here and wanted to give her some LA secrets to live by.
But instead I found myself warning her of the hazards of flaky. Mixed in with the “oh we are so damn lucky to live here” and “santa monica is the greatest” was my jaded “don’t take it personal, some people here just can’t be relied on.”
Is it just LA I wondered. Or maybe the people in all big cities are wishy-washy? They get busy and overextend themselves, saying YES to every invite that comes their way. Then make it to some and no-show the others. But guess what, we’re all busy, so get yourself another excuse.
Once I commit to drinks, dinner or whatever, I’m in. Not so for the rest of the city I sorta love. The flakiness makes it hard to strike up friendships and really connect with anyone. I’m lucky to have a few amazing close friends, that feel the same way about keeping our word. And the rest of the city but can just F off!
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November 21, 2008 at 7:35 am
Mandy
Flaky people are in every city and town in the WORLD. Some of my PJ’s family in Europe is just so flaky.
December 1, 2008 at 11:16 pm
julie
I agree with Mandy (even though I don’t know her), but there are flakes everywhere!
December 21, 2008 at 10:51 pm
Joel
I know that flakes are everywhere. I am Italian, and a lot of my
Friends growing up with were Italian we never flaked on each other or others, and if someone new to the group flaked, the ongoing torture and constant prodding made them think twice about ever flaking again…
I spent 10 years in North Texas, and now that I am back here I see a change in the So/Cal area, More flakes than before and more flakes here I think than in Dallas. Not just socially but in Business too… Just an observation…