I’m not proud, but I can’t be the only one. When another woman is the proud owner of a big ol’ diamond engagement ring I think, WOW that girl is really loved. If it’s a budget-sized normal ring, it’s just not as exciting. There was a girl I used to work with, and the teeny tiny size of her diamond chip was sad news. I never even saw it, just heard how subtle it was. I felt bad for her and that high school promise ring posing as something more.
Oh sure it’s about love, not the diamond. But it’s the big sparkly stones that get our attention. So maybe it’s a very shallow scorecard of how we did or didn’t do in the love department.
Lucky girl, he loves her 3 emerald-cut carats worth!
What is it about a big ring? Like a fancy new car or a 500$ purse, it says to everyone Hey I’m special. Or at least my credit card is.
That bullshit telling us how many months salary a guy is supposed to spend, heard it was invented by the diamond companies to sell more shiny. Would you rather have a down payment for a home or an impressive piece of jewelry? Don’t answer that.
Especially in LA, where image seems to matter most. It’s not an easy city to be down to earth in. Driving my 10-year old car cause it gets great mileage, I’m often alone in my practicality, but mostly I just don’t care. And I’d go broke trying to keep up.
So you’d think I wouldn’t give a shit about some showy thing that proves something or other to some people. But I do. And I don’t.
Size shouldn’t matter. But it always does.
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October 15, 2008 at 9:31 am
Andrea
Girl, I totally agree. I can’t help but feel envious when I see a big ol’ ring on someone’s finger - though I still love my man, size does matter…
October 15, 2008 at 1:28 pm
julie
OMG you know what is the worst… when you are looking at a friends ring and the only thing that you can say (but don’t want to) is “it’s so cute” or “awww, you guys are lucky to have each other” when you are really thinking “he got you freaking diamond dust?!??!” I am shallow, I feel bad.
October 15, 2008 at 4:51 pm
drew
and i actually think i might want to marry one of you people someday….holy shit! maybe i will just boycott the entire thing and buy my next wife a 10 year old car and a popup tent….or at least i can try, this is LA and all
October 16, 2008 at 2:30 pm
sarah
This is long, but very educational. And will really make you want to say, “Fu(k diamonds! Just get me a giant cubic zirconia.” Well, it would if it weren’t for LA and knowing that everyone else will know that’s not a diamond and your guy doesn’t have the cash. Ah, life.
http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/198202/diamond
October 17, 2008 at 10:22 am
Mandy
I was given the choice of a big engagement ring or a simple one and a house. I picked the house and simple one. Cleaning spitup out of a big ring is no fun or when you scratch your newborn with it.
November 11, 2008 at 10:52 pm
Joel
Kudos to Ya Mandy…
Nothing wrong with a huge rock on your finger… Most guys can not
afford to go out and spend 4 months salary on a ring… If you got it and you can, Great!!! if not, well I guess just put that $20,000.00 ring on your credit card.
I do think sometimes though, That I might have gotten to small of a Diamond for my first several Marriages… So next time, (if there is a next time) I am going to go out and buy her a HUGE ROCK… Maybe that will make it Last…. or maybe put that money into therapy, or better yet put it towards a new boat or do what mandy did put it towards a home.
But then compare best Friends… Diamonds are a girls best friend…
and a Mans best friend is a dog…